Our First House: Lessons Learned

There’s no place like (your first) home! Tips and tricks we learned in the house hunt process.

A quick Google image search of “house” versus “home” will give you an indication that the two concepts aren’t the same, and most of us know the difference. The house is the physical; the home is a feeling.

So while “home” will always be wherever I’m with my husband and surrounded by loved ones, our new house is starting to feel more and more like home base every passing day.

We moved at the end of June (amid a very rainy period, which made for an interesting moving process), after months of searching for the right place, neighbourhood, type of house, etc. As any homebuyer knows, it can be a stressful and overwhelming time.

moving, boxes, home

The meetings and scheduling and research and finances aside, sometimes, for some people, big life changes or even purchases trigger some soul-searching and self-realization. My advice is to dig in to that process and to listen and learn.

Growth is challenging, but very rewarding. This milestone is no different, and throughout it all we’ve made sure to take stock of how exciting a time it is for us — one we’ll look back on with laughs and memories. We’re thrilled to have found the perfect first home for us, which we look forward to continue making our own.

Happy new homeowners

Here is some wisdom we gleaned, and helpful advice we were given, along the way that made the process a little less daunting. We’re so lucky to have such intelligent, kind, and generous family and friends to assist us and just have someone to call and exchange ideas and thoughts with, and we’re so thankful for their help and advice that got us through it!

Of course, these are helpful in the house-hunt process, but also for life in general — they can be applied to so many situations.

Some quotes to remember:

Some  points to consider:

  • At some point, you have to take a leap of faith
  • Build resilience
  • Learn from people who’ve done it before you
  • Take calculated risks
  • Go with your gut (it’ll never lead you astray!)
  • You already know the answer

Some questions to ponder:

  • What will you think 5, 10 years from now?
  • What will you hope you have chosen?
  • What would you regret more?
  • What aligns with your values?

And a final parting thought:

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And just like that, the turn of a page to a new chapter. This was our dream home, our forever home, a home that we painstakingly renovated, designed, cherished, and cheered for. A home where we started our family. A home that built dreams, housed laughter, and witnessed tears…and then we sold it. My grandmother always told me to never get attached to anything that can be bought or sold, so I'm focused on cherishing the memories we made here rather than the walls around them. This moment is incredibly bittersweet, but I'm saying a prayer that the new owners will be blessed in these walls as much as we were. Cheers to the end of a beautiful chapter, and the turn of a page. Life comes at you fast. 🏡

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I saw this post by Cassie Kelley on Instagram right when I happened to need to read it most. I was in the middle of unpacking, cleaning, organizing, and being sentimental about leaving the apartment we were in for five years and starting out anew. This really spoke to me: “My grandmother always told me to never get attached to anything that can be bought or sold, so I’m focused on cherishing the memories we made here rather than the walls around them.”


7 thoughts on “Our First House: Lessons Learned

  1. Congrats on your new home! Loved reading this post. I’m not buying a new home anytime soon, but I am currently looking for an apartment to rent (for the very first time with my boyfriend and our best friend) and your tips were really encouraging. I’ve been kind of overwhelmed lately about the thought, but your tips and thoughts to consider are things we really will think about when touring apartments! Thank you! ❤


    1. Thanks, Jen! Apartment hunting can be super stressful — I’ve been there! If you’re like me, you want to find something *perfect,* so it can be hard to make a decision. Finding the one that meets the most of your criteria and that you have a good gut feeling about can help. Best of luck and I’m glad you found some encouragement in the post 🙂


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